To Move Forward or to Stand Still - That is the question

Hi guys

I want to first congratulate my friend Haneen on achieving her doctorate. I am so proud of you.

Over my life, I have spent much time contemplating the lines in Robert Frost’s poem especially the last two lines which are

‘Two roads diverged in a wood, and I,
I took the one less travelled by,
And that has made all the difference’  (excerpt from poem by Robert Frost)

There have been numerous interpretations of this poem which I will not go into as this poem may mean something different to everyone. What we can agree on is that in life we often face crossroads (two roads which diverge). If you choose to go down one road it usually means you can’t go down another at the same time.

For some people, the fear of choosing a road, that is, making a decision on moving forward paralyses them. Some decisions are easy and others much harder. I totally agree that making decisions especially life changing decisions can be scary. I think not making a decision is scarier though. When you put off making a decision and instead you are forced into a decision, or allow others to decide for you or simply compromise or ignore a situation or opportunity because it is the ‘easier’ thing to do, you are setting yourself up for disappointment.

Instead seize the opportunity to make a decision. It is your life. You have to live with the decisions you or anyone else make. So therefore in my mind, it makes sense for you to make and own your decisions. There may always be naysayers and those who disagree or think you are making a foolish choice. There will be those who might be jealous you are moving forward or doing something different (crab in the bucket mentality). Who cares? Follow your heart and follow your dreams and that is what will make the difference.

To all the people who had the courage to make often difficult decisions...I tip my hat to you.

·        Those who made a decision to give up ‘stable jobs’ and followed or will follow their dream to start a business

·        Those who made calculated (well thought out) decisions to buy or build a home in a difficult economy

·        Those who made a decision to marry who they love even when others tried to discourage them or those who moved far away to follow their love

·        Those who made and stuck with decisions to lose weight and take control of their lives and health

·        Those who chose to walk away from abusive relationships and stand strong and tall because they know their worth

These are real examples of real people I know who made decisions often choosing to take the road less travelled by. These are people I know who are happy with the road they have chosen to travel.

What about you? Are you at a cross road? Is there a decision that you have been struggling with or putting off making? Have you stopped to pray about it?  If not, do so now. It’s true that prayer and faith changes things. I know.

Say Yes to making those decisions you have been putting off today. I am.

 

 

Say Yes to a new month!

Hi guys

 

I love writing this blog so I have really missed talking to you over the last few months. A lot has been going on with me...mostly wonderful stuff which I will tell you about in another blog.

I can hardly believe it is September already. What a year it has been so far. I have so much to be thankful for and despite the fact that we are going through a recession I’m sure that you too have a lot to be thankful for.

Everything we go through in life, how we react is all about perspective and attitude right? I was talking to a friend today and laughing about the fact that I am 29 and still living at home. This would definitely be sad and pathetic in some cultures. Hmmm I’m not sure that it isn’t sad even in my culture lol.  However, I simply look at it as a way to save some cash as I am sure others in my situation do as well. Not to mention the other perks like home cooked meals.  It’s all about perspective and attitude right.

So whatever you are going through or whatever situation you find yourself in right now take a minute and try to see what could possibly be good about it.

Single and looking? My best advice for you is to stay single until you find the perfect guy or girl for you...many women and men probably wished they had stayed single until they found their soul mate instead of settling or rushing a relationship.

Looking for work? This is a tougher one to see the good in but use the time that you are unemployed or underemployed to develop your skills and build your knowledge. Also don’t underestimate the power of volunteering and getting involved in charitable activities during this time. It will help to build a positive attitude and a sense of doing something worthwhile. Don’t get bitter or angry about being job less...get smarter. Be prepared for when that job comes around because it will.

Are your children driving you up a wall? Think about those who want to have children but cannot. Children are a true blessing from God. Whether you have one or ten....just ensure that you play your role as the parent and raise them up to be the best persons they can be.

Here in Anguilla, we are pretty resilient. Once we continue to keep a positive attitude and put everything in perspective....recession or not...we will be A-okay.

Drop me a line and let me know what you are thankful for. See you next time!