Tuesday, 22 November 2011

Yes I Can, Yes We Can, Yes!

Yes, I have a ‘Can do’ and a ‘Will do’ attitude to life...Do you?

So what is a ‘can do’ or a ‘will do’ attitude? A ‘can do’ attitude makes you confident and resourceful in the face of challenges. It is marked by the willingness to tackle a job and get it done.
Some of our greatest leaders have demonstrated a ‘can do’ and a ‘will do’ attitude. In fact we all remember Barack Obama’s tagline ‘Yes we can.’ I have no doubt that Obama would have chanted in the mirror in the years leading up to the election ‘Yes I can’ as well. He may have said ‘Yes I can overcome barriers of race, ‘Yes I can’ get all types of persons to vote for me, ‘Yes I can’ become President of the United States.  A person with a ‘cannot’ or ‘will not’ attitude would never have accomplished such a feat.
Similarly, other great leaders and role models such as Martin Luther King, Florence Nightingale, Mahatma Gandhi must have all possessed a ‘can do’ approach to life and each of these left an irrefutable mark on the world.
Each of us has within us the power to change our attitude regardless of our circumstances. Just ask Nick Vujicic who was born without arms and legs but still lives a life full of happiness. In his book ‘Life without Limits’ the central theme is that the most important goal for anyone is to find their life’s purpose despite whatever difficulties or seemingly impossible odds stand in their way. He is a preacher and motivational speaker and of course he has a ‘can do ‘and a ‘will do ‘attitude towards life.

I have heard people come up with all manner of excuses for why they cannot or will not do something. Excuses include, I will never achieve that because I have the wrong last name or that is just too much work, or I am too big or I have never done that before....the excuses are endless.

Instead of thinking why you cannot..let’s try this novel idea...let’s think why we ‘can’ or why we ‘should.’ So many of us bury, ignore and waste our God given talents and abilities and cover them up with excuses.

I applaud persons with ‘can do’ attitudes like my friend from university...Nneka Elliot...check out her blog ‘In pursuit of the dream’ at nneka-elliot.blogspot.com. I also see these persons here in Anguilla and they include persons who volunteer, persons who are effectively raising their children, persons who have taken control of their health and diet, and persons who are building their homes and starting businesses....
You too can have a ‘can do’ and ‘will do’ attitude. Set a SMART goal and say yes I can accomplish this goal! Do this today.
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Tuesday, 15 November 2011

Our Romantic Comedy - The rest is still unwritten..

Love is perhaps one of the hardest things to describe and thus as I write this blog...I am thinking...what am I thinking writing about love? Nevertheless...here we go.
'Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does
not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of
wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects,
always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres (Corinthians 13, 4-7).'
Like most persons, I love this scripture. I have been hearing it a lot over the last few years as I attend the weddings of family and friends. Along with many other scriptures in the bible, it is almost a recipe for a successful love, a successful marriage. Do you agree?
So, after the dress has been decided on and worn, after the venue has been decorated and used, after the food and drinks have been prepared and consumed, after the excitement of the wedding day and beautiful vows and speeches have been given....what should remain and be built upon is a Corinthians 13 love.
I like to witness love. I believe in love. I am in love. Love is a wonderful and beautiful thing. One of my favourite love songs is‘I thought I loved you then’ by Brad Paisley. Check it out and you will see why!

A word of caution

At a wedding I attended recently, my friend’s mother said to me......love and marriage should never be rushed....regardless of age or circumstance.  She said 'it might take a long time to find that person you want to spend the rest of your life with but at the end it would be worth the wait.’
I totally agreed with her as she shared these nuggets of wisdom. Some people find their true love at an early age or realise that they are in love quickly after meeting someone. Others find their true love in their evening years or choose to take time to allow their love to develop and grow before marriage....it does not matter which path you choose but at the end of the day...what matters is that both of you are totally and completely happy and secure in your love.
To my sweetie, I love you.
Today, don’t miss out on the opportunity to say ‘I love you’ to the special person in your life. I just did J.

Wednesday, 2 November 2011

SHELLY DAY!!!

Shelly Day!!!!!!

So I got home from work this afternoon, put down my bag and I just grinned, stretched and did a little jig. Why? Because it is a Shelly Day! No meetings or any other obligations which required me to go out, teach, sit on my computer etc. I could do anything....and I chose to write a blogJ  because I missed talking to you all so much and I know you miss me too.

I love my life. I know I thrive when I am busy. Similarly, I know how much I enjoy giving back and I really do love new challenges. However, in order to sustain the level of energy and activity I partake in, I must have ‘Shelly Days.’

So what are Shelly Days? This can be an afternoon, day or weekend when I say to the world.....I need a timeout...I need to relax, regroup and rejuvenate and usually it means I am going to stay home and chill or if I am lucky I can take a walk on the beach.  So on a Shelly Day, I catch up on some of my favourite shows for example...I really like Big Bang Theory, Modern Family and How I met your Mother.  Sometimes, I lie down and listen to gospel music or I read books which I meant to read or take up the phone and catch up with friends whom I may have neglected...

These days are important to me because I know how easy it is to get overwhelmed with other’s demands, wants and needs. To counter that we must always make time to firstly reconnect with ourselves and then reconnect with those who help to build us up. Don’t ever pick up the phone to call those who break you down.

Every day, our job, family, friends and other organisations make demands on us so when our mind, body and soul are screaming for breaks from it all...LISTEN! It really is that simple.

On these days, give your mind, body and spirit permission to be at peace. Don’t worry about the big project due on Friday, forget about the conflict within your family, find a baby sitter, allow yourself a treat...whatever works for you, do it.

Schedule an ‘Insert name here’ day today! You will be amazed at the therapeutic benefits you will experience.